Friday, September 21, 2012

Without Uterus

Hi everyone. Me and the twins are doing good. They already 6 months now. All praises to Allah.

I do receive lots of email asking opinion and ppl who share their stories with me. I do find time to reply all of them. I would like to help my fellow ttcian the least that i can...

Recently someone commented on one of my post... my heard really goes for her. I couldnt imagine how strong she is and how she face her daily life. She was born without uterus. How could it be?? What treatment she can do without an uterus??? She wrote something to her husband which i would like to share with everyone.


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I feel so bad for dragging you along in this...
Sometimes I wish I never got married
So that I'll be alone in this
And not put anyone through this pain

Sometimes while you're sleeping
I just look at you and feel sorry for making you go through this...
And other times I think to myself Why should I feel sorry for you?
You are going to have kids with or without me
The pain of not having them will be taken away from you one day or another
You will laugh, smile, cry, be upset, you will teach your son to ride a bicycle, you will kiss your daughter's forehead, you will drop your children to school, you will shop for your wife to get her a gift with your children, you will carry them on your shoulders, you will be in a labor room one day..........seeing your wife go through the pain of having your children and you will love her for it, you will appreciate her for it.....

and that wife won't be me...

While you're doing all that, I'll probably be at home lying in bed and crying my heart out like I am right now or even worse.

I remember a time when you told me 'What I have with you, I can never have with anyone else'....

Well...what you can have with anyone else, you can never have with me..

Sometimes I wish that you would be with me in this forever and that you would be patient and that we will wait and be content with whatever Allah has written....if we don't have it here, we'll have it in Jannah.

But I know you will be a father one day..a father to the children of another woman.......and I only pray that you both have all the happiness in the world.


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This is a big test for her and i wish Allah gives her all the strength in this world so that she will able to live this life peacefully.

8 their rebelling minds:

JayFarhana said...

Mira, im not sure whether u are talking about the same person or not. my close friend, who's a well known singer-songwriter also borned without uterus. an online TV interviewed her on how she & her husband gone through all this http://findingtwolines.blogspot.com/2012/03/1-cinta-1-lagu-wani-ardy.html

but she's a happy & lovable friend, skang tgh usaha nak ambil anak angkat. yeah she may not conceived on her own but i told her, ambik ubat utk susukan anak, then anak tu leh jadi darah daging :) yg penting anak tu anak yg soleh kan.

she also wrote a poem about this
http://findingtwolines.blogspot.com/2011/04/dream-mothers-by-wani-ardy.html

Lady Mira said...

Oh wani tu pun without uterus... pernah baca before tapi tak ingat sangat story dia.

Ni someone from UAE.

Yes, adoption is the best option... and yes leh susukan anak tu... Nabi kita sendiri ada ibu susuan... and ada anak angkat. So, its not wrong at all.

Mereka sangat tabah

Nissa Kawaii said...

sedih...mcam kisah wany n ardy tu...she is so special :) and mmg Allah sayang die sangat, sbb tu diberi ujian..Ya Allah, hanya die merasa bebannya...huwwaa...sedih sgt.... terasa sangat bila bace entry ni..... semoga dia tabah dlm menghadapi hidup ini...

JayFarhana said...

ooooo ada lagi orang lain eh..wah should tell her about this. sebab kalau ada ramai yg mcm ni, bila bgtau dia takde lah dia rasa alone sgt sbb mmg rare org yg takde rahim ni. takde tube tu ramai tapi born without uterus memang tak ramai. yeah they are really special. Allah sgt sayang diorang :) mudahan2 dgn dugaan seberat ini, ada balasan syurga utk mereka nanti :)

eKa said...

ala sedihnya.kuar buat ujian dia.semoga dia tabah

Mamanurin said...

-:( sangat sedih tapi mama harap Allah terus kuat semangat dia..tabahkan hati dia

Mama Adam said...

Kesiannya. Setuju if they adopt a child. Jumpa doc n mkn pills, jd anak susuan. Hukum pun senang. Cuma, queue quite pjg la. Unless dia kenal sapa2 yg nk bg anak angkat.

Doakan mereka tabah.

Anonymous said...

my tubes where tied 10 years back after my second child with my ex husband hoping i will live with him all the rest of my life but later we separated until i met this lovely and wonderful man without a child who love to have at list 2 kids but my tubes where tied , when i was on the BabyCenter i saw how so many women testify how they got pregnant with DR EKA roots and herbs which i never thought it will ever work with his email address to reach him so i contacted him and order for the roots surprisingly i got pregnant 1 months and 2 weeks after using the herbs and now i am 7 months pregnant hoping to put to birth soon. so i could not keep this to myself than to testify how he also help me with his roots and herbs .you can as well reach him too on his e-mail (dreka14demons@gmail.com)