You’re one of the top people in your company and you’re great at what you do. You’ve always considered yourself a career woman, you got the promotion you’ve harping after, you’re at the top of your game, and finally after all the long hours, sweat and effort you’ve put into your job, you’re finally holding the position you want at the top of your company. Remember the movie The Proposal starring Sandra Bullock? Yeah, imagine a high-powered career woman like that.
Then you meet someone, fall in love and get married. What happens next? Would you give up your career and opt for married life instead? Or would you juggle both? Juggling both is an easy option for many women these days because we’ve grown accustomed to this kind of lifestyle, and it’s fine if your husband is working in the same location. But what if he were based outstation? Or even overseas? How would you feel about giving up your career for your marriage?
This question is a tough one. Not everyone is going to have the same answer. I suppose it is a question of what is more important to you and what your priorities are. Of course, naturally husband and wife would want to be together, but that doesn’t necessarily mean us women would be happy to leave our jobs and top positions that we worked so hard to get.
Unless we hated our jobs in the first place of course then we would be more than happy to drop it. That’s why this is a tough one to answer. Maybe once you’re married you might have different priorities and your job doesn’t seem so important to you as it use to be. Especially if you’re planning for a family and you’re thinking about having children. Maybe once you’re married focusing on home life will become your priority instead of your job.
The thing is, we’ll never know for certain what we will or will not do, until we are put into that situation and have to make a choice. There are so many factors that come into play here, so many different situations, circumstances and scenarios that it is hard to give a definitive answer. People change all the time, and they certainly change their minds often enough.
This is certainly a tough decision to make, but at the end of the day, it all boils down to you, where your priorities lie and what comes first. And you need to make your decision based on that.
So, would you be willing to consider giving up your career for marriage?
Note – i did gave up my career and focusing on family. But this infertility thing is so much harder when I'm at home doing nothing and feel so lonely. After 9 months being full time housewife, instead of delivering baby, im back into this white collar world.