Wednesday, April 13, 2011

My first facebook note on infertility – Just Me

Infertility isn’t something many people really know much about or care to really discuss.  Which is really hysterical to me considering how OPEN people are about pregnancy and all that amazing excitement. But when someone informs a friend or family member that they have an issue that causes infertility or just fertility issues they always say the same damn thing, “Just stop trying and it’ll happen”. Alright friends and family. I have some very strong words to you out there when you say this me…fuck you. Yes. I know. A little mean, a little bitchy and a little not needed you may think but until you are in my place you can shove off.  I don’t want to hear those words ever again in my entire life to tell you the truth. How bout instead of that why don’t you just say, “Man that sucks.” Feel free to ask as many questions as you like but don’t act like it’s just that easy.  You don’t know. Hell, most people who have gone through infertility issues and came out on the other of it all typically seem to forget what it was ever like to be in this place.  It down right sucks. Some please don’t be offended when I make a sarcastic, jealous remark to your recent blow out diaper complaint or banter on how you wish your newborn would give you just 5 more minutes to sleep.  And I am sorry if I fight back tears when you remind how AMAZING it is to have a child in your life. It is nothing against you, it really is the anger I have towards my low grade fertility and out of whack hormones. – via xbabystepsx

12 their rebelling minds:

Mar said...

Kalaulah Mar ada kekuatan utk tulis macam tu dalam FB kan bagus. Malangnya tak mampu. Mar sekarang siap dah deactivate akaun FB sbb tak tahan nak tengok status kwn2 tentang pregnant, bersalin etc.

Good one xbabystepsx

Naz said...

Hi Amira. U probably dnt knw me but I have somebody who is reallly close to me who has been going through the same journey as yours. My sister has married for 7 years but she is still childless. I know she is in misery but she remains strong. One thing about my sister and her husband that I really admire is that they never giving up on trying. Lots of money hav been spent but they didnt stop trying. Ive been praying for them and now I am praying for you too...

Lady In The Mirror said...

Mar- Lady pun sama cam mar jugak... if boleh nak jer cakap direct kat diorang tp... masih bertahan.

Naz - thanks for dropping by. Ur sister must be so strong. Its not easy to trying for 7 yrs!! It made tears after reading u'll pray for me too... thanks :)

one BABY-step at a time said...
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one BABY-step at a time said...

yes!! that is what ppl keep on saying to me too. "it will come when u stop trying". I say it will not come if we dont try. bg org yg subur, boleh lah kan.kalu yg ade problem sana sini tu, ayat itu menjengkelkan.

julie@julianamnoor said...

itu orang ha...bongek.haritu saya pergi kenduri sangat mengjengkelkan bila ada sorang kawan ni kata, dalam perot kita ada baby lg sorang.haha..rasa nak aku tendang2 je perot hang tu( kejam benor).hehe..sebelum tu dalm fb, mcm2 petua duk bagi..siap nak bagi ubat, mmgla niat baik.tapi hari2 tegur mau kata asik tanya soklan sama..pastu p kenduri duk tayang perot kat aku.aku hempuk baru tau,bangga sangatla..hishh...mau aku kata, hg ni kilang ka apa..hehehe...zasss

Ayien Azreen said...

julie... mau ketawa jugak baca comment awak... hahaha... macam2 kan kita ni... rasa nak terajang sana sini... hahahaha

mahujadiibu said...

hahaha...perasaan je.buat xnakla kot mcmtu kat org.huhhu..pasal dia duk eksyen sgt.hihi-julie

Lady In The Mirror said...

Julie - dah ada own ttc blog??? nak gak add!

mahujadiibu said...

yes...itulah saya..www.iwannabemum.blogspot.com..best sket kat situ.boleh bebel2 banyak sikit.hihhi

honeylily said...

i wish i can write that too..
and julie~sangat terhibur dgn ur comment...
hahaha..pernah terfikir gak nak wat camtu, then kan....time pregnant dah la ari2 update kat FB, cite kat opis...pas beranak plak asyik cite pasal anak dye ari2...
Sikit2,"arini anak i dah pandai ni, dah pandai tu,dah boleh tu, dah boleh ni"..sangat menyakitkan ati (sbb dye kawen 1 month after me)..tapi skrg buat tak dgr je..

Lady In The Mirror said...

betul tu honeylily . Dah la kt office dikelilingi oleh org2 pregnant and mak budak jer... tiap2 hari hanya topic pasal anak jer diorang... sometimes pasang telinga... most of the time... hanya Allah jer tau perasaan ini... :(